Well-Spoken Words (I)

~ By Ajahn Jayasāro ~

To speak well and communicate effectively first requires us to check on our 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 in speaking, and on the prevailing 𝘤𝘪𝘳𝘤𝘶𝘮𝘴𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦𝘴. During the conversation itself we should keep track of the 𝘵𝘳𝘶𝘵𝘩𝘧𝘶𝘭𝘯𝘦𝘴𝘴 and 𝘦𝘧𝘧𝘦𝘤𝘵 of our words and of the 𝘮𝘢𝘯𝘯𝘦𝘳 in which we speak them.

𝗜𝗻𝘁𝗲𝗻𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻

It is better to abstain from speech if we become aware of an intention to deceive, manipulate, belittle, or to vent aggression and pain. Driving a wedge between the defilements that arise in the mind and the verbal expression of them is a significant spiritual achievement. Good speech results from the wish to share, to inform, to offer support, to comfort, to encourage, to gently remind and – if appropriate – to admonish. Mettā, the heart-felt wish for the well-being of both self and other, is the best foundation for right speech. Our speech will be well-balanced when we also determine to listen with care and respect to all those we speak to, and seek to understand them.

(to be continued)

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